Published: Nov 12, 2006

The christmas lights and decorations only remind you of your ex-girlfriend that you broke up with, at this time last year. Your dog ran away from home on christmas eve and you haven't seen him since. You've lost a loved one in the past during the holiday season, and you are still completely devastated.

For many people the holidays aren't just about having a great time going from one christmas party to the next, full of holiday cheer. For some, this can be the most desolate and depressing time of year.

When people are already lonely, the holiday season only amplifies this need in their lives, this lack of social support. Statistically, most suicides occur during the months of the holiday season.

Another factor that may be contributed to this general feeling of depression might be that hours of daylight are becoming shorter and these shorter days expose us to less sunlight and as a result of this lack of exposure, we feel like we're on a downer.

Don't let the holiday blues get you down! Here are some seasonal tips to help you stay happy.

  • Everyday is a gift. It should be treated as such. In the morning when you wake up, tell yourself there is only one today and you are going to live it to the fullest and make the most out of it. And do it!
  • Socialize. Whenever you get the chance to make contact with people. If you are invited to a holiday party, by all means go and enjoy yourself. You never know who you might meet. Or just strike up a convo with someone on the street, people are usually friendlier this time of year. (Unless you are shopping, of course.) haha
  • Do something you enjoy. Whether it's curling up on the couch with a good book, sitting in front of the fireplace or hanging out with your favorite person or pet, or working on your incomplete novel, find time or make time to do something you enjoy doing.
  • Treat Yourself. The holidays are always about buying gifts for other people. While you are out doing your christmas shopping, buy something nice for yourself. It doesn't have to be something expensive, it just has to be something you wouldn't ordinarily buy yourself, after all, you are worth it.
  • Today is the only day that matters. Yesterday is only a memory and tomorrow is in the future and hasn't happened yet. Live in and for today. Forget the past, it's gone and is never coming back.
  • Get Support. Whether it's through a friend or a community support group, no one is an island, we are all connected and interconnected and part of the larger family of humanity. If you feel you need some support, then get it!
  • Smile. Even if you don't feel happy, smile at people you pass by on the street. Smiles are contagious, spread some holiday cheer around.